Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Go-To Satisfaction

I'm finally going to talk toys! If you are a sex toy user, you probably have several things that make the regular rotation of devices you enjoy using during different types of play times.  However, if you are in need of that orgasm, you probably have a toy that you rely on.  A toy that no matter what, no matter where, no matter how hard of a time you're having, it will get you there! 

Of course, I have said toy.  It's not something that you would expect.  I'm not talking Hitachi power or anything.  Just a small, smooth plastic vibrator that gets my clit-a-buzzin'!

It is the Little Honey!  Want to read my review on the Little Honey?  Go here!

Thanks for reading!!!

Monday, November 22, 2010

Body Image and Sex

Whether you are a BBW or an average woman, body image plays a huge role in how we view ourselves sexually.  If you are a woman who is confident in your skin, find yourself to be beautiful and sexy, then you will be more comfortable in the bedroom.  This is not a new truth.  Cosmo and Redbook and every other publication has written hundreds of articles on this very topic. 

So what is it about this very, seemingly, simple concept that keeps writers writing and women flocking to read the articles?  What is it about this topic that has you here today?  I'm sure, like almost every person in America, what you're looking for is the answer to one solitary question.  "How?"  How do you accomplish this very coveted phenomena of confidence and positive body image?

I cannot give you a formula.  I can give you what has worked for me.  I don't think that I came by this accomplishment in an easy way or in a way that I can recommend, because we all know that things don't always work out the way we feel like they should.  So what worked for me?

First of all, I fell in love and married a man who was in love with me and my body.  He has also been in love with my body even though it has grown in our, very nearly decade together.  He loves making me quiver and moan and scream even with ecstasy.  HALLELUJAH! Praise JESUS!  The world needs more men like him, who love their women for the woman they are, not by the pant size they wear! 

Secondly, I forcefully and deliberately eradicated every thought and image about traditional beauty out there.  It is one of the reasons (among many) that we don't watch pornography (not even BBW porn).  If I saw a commercial that talked about beauty and the only woman it showed was a blonde, athletic woman with a tiny waist and pert breasts, I changed the channel.  If I was interested in a magazine article and the only thing it talked about was being a size 2-6 to be appealing to men, I put it back on the rack.  I forced the "inferred truth" that women need to be 36-24-30 with a perfect DD cup to be beautiful OUT of my mind.

Third, I started focusing on the things about myself that I really loved.  I took a long, honest look in the mirror.  Not an easy task, let me tell you.  I focused on the things that I loved about myself.  My eyes, my lips, my breasts, my legs.... and I played them up. 

Fourth, I started working on the things that I didn't like.  Let's face it, it's not healthy to be overweight.  It's not healthy to be super skinny either.  I go to the gym (when my life as a mom and wife and employee don't get in the way).  I try not to eat foods that are not good for me.  I try to eat as cleanly as possible and drink water like I'm planning a trip to the Sahara. 

Oh, and a little side note about going to the gym?  I focus a lot on 1. Flattening my tummy and 2. FLEXIBILITY!  Whoo!  I can keep my legs up a lot longer than I used to and exercise increases libido!
As I said, we've all seen some of these suggestions in magazine articles.  Maybe today is the day you needed to read it. 

Regarding my "First of all" about marrying a man who loves to make me squeal?  It doesn't mean that you should depend on your lover to make you feel confident, because mine doesn't, but after almost 10 years of hearing him tell me that I'm the sexiest woman ever, I finally started taking it to heart.  So, he's not the reason I am confident, but he helped me on that journey. 

Or, if you don't have this kind of man (or woman) in your life, learn to make yourself squeal.  Take a journey to discover your g-spot, buy a new vibrator, or whatever else you've been curious about and learn your body sexually.  It will give you confidence and put you in charge of your own bliss!  You don't have to be small to learn to give yourself an orgasm!  Please... give yourself multiple!

Sunday, November 21, 2010

The Intimacy of Reviewing Toys

In my first post I talked about how I got into reviewing sex toys for Eden Fantasys.  It has only been about a month or so since all this has started and it's been a wild ride!

That being said, it hasn't been without its hiccups.  I don't think that My Mister thought that my foray into the world of sex toys would be so consuming!  He really had no idea that I would be so interested in learning about sex toys, so willing to try new things, so consumed with the community. 

I think our biggest hiccup in this process, however, has been the time we've taken to reassure each other that no matter what comes into the home, we're completely satisfied with each other.  This is strictly a matter of pleasuring each other with some new textures, materials, vibrations, and other various apparatuses.  This is about discovering things within ourselves and within the other person that intensifies our connection. 

If a product arrives in my assignment cart that would take away from, rather than enhance, our connection and intimacy, it gets declined.  Simple as that.  Basically, anything that is modeled after another man/woman (with the exception of the Fleshlight we just received for review... it is supposed to be modeled after Tera Patrick, but we just ignore that part as Fleshlights are high quality toys and I have less issue with "molds" than My Mister does).

I digress.  There is a lot of fun and intimacy in picking toys.  We love looking for items that will help us either achieve my elusive G-Spot orgasm or that will help us fulfill our new fantasies of bondage and exhibitionism.  Just shopping for items together and talking about the different ways we can use them is usually enough to get our engines revving. 

If anyone is looking for a little advice, I would say that if you and your partner are in a bit of a lull state for getting the motors warm, just take a little shopping trip.  You don't even have to buy anything.  But you do need to be honest.  Stay away from things that are uncomfortable or taboo subject matter (again, be honest with each other about what makes you uncomfortable... so if you are turned off by pornography or anal toys, say "No _______________").  Fantasize together about how you'd like to use the product.  Be descriptive.  You'll be shutting down your computer and running up the stairs in no time!

Tuesday, November 16, 2010


We've all seen the web pages for it.  "100% Free Sex Stories."  I used to be grossed out by such a thing!  I used to think it was "wrong" to be turned on by reading something that was so blatantly sexual.

One day, however, I decided to check it out!   What's more?  I started to read them to and with my husband!  YOWZA!  I think we were envisioning ourselves with each other in these stories.  It opened up a whole new level of communication about sexual fantasies and desires.  It also gave us the opportunity to try some things we would have never tried before!  From different positions and orifices to some light BDSM and exhibitionism!

Now mind you, we don't read it all the time.  My Mister gets me going pretty well without any extra stimuli to get me ready for some serious throes of passion, but when we're looking to take it to another level and add a little "sumptin' sumptin'!"  A little erotica will get us right in the frame of mind we want to be in!

The Hows and Whys

My Mister and I were placing an order over at Eden Fantasys and I saw this banner:
"Eden Fantasys Review Program:  Become a Reviewer.  Get Free Toys.  Enjoy Special Discounts."

Ummm... HELL YES! Oh wait, My Mister.

ME:  Honey! Honey! I can get free sex toys!
Mr:  Awesome!  What does it entail.
ME: I just have to write a review.  It has to be pretty detailed though.  I have to talk about our experience with the toy.
Mr: But you get free sex toys?
ME: *nods*
Mr: So, DO IT!  It can be anonymous, right?
ME: Yep.
Mr:  Go for it!


As I have gotten acquainted with the website and the forum I have encountered some amazing people!  There is a system, and you should read into it before jumping on the train, or you may be disappointed. But along with the benefit of choosing items to review, items that are assigned to you free of charge to review, and a 30% discount on an item in return for an unbiased review.... there's also the Eden Points Program, where everything you do on the website, from searching for items to commenting in the forum to turning in a review, will earn you points!  This is such a generous company and they take care of their reviewers.
Now here I am, wanting to expand and explore my sexual side.  To explore the wonders of sex and marriage.  You'll find toy reviews here, sex talk and advice, musings and discoveries of my sexuality, and who knows what else!