Monday, April 4, 2011

Tickle Me... Wait! Spank Me!

As I explore my sub side more and more, I'm discovering that I like the rough more than the sensual side of role-playing.  Luckily, when I picked up the Starburst Tickler from Sportsheets at Babeland, I was able to use it for both.



This tickler is made of plastic and feathers.  The tag nor the Sportsheets or Babeland websites offer the specific type of feathers they are.  I presume they've been dyed into red and black.  Sportsheets offers them in six different colors; however, Babeland only stocks red at this time. The feathers are very soft and are glued in well.  Some firm, but gentle, tugging did not dislodge any of the feathers.  I wouldn't recommend trying too hard to get the feathers out, because I'm sure at some point you will succeed!  The handle is plastic with the Sportsheets logo molded onto the handle.  You only want to share this between fluid-bound partners as there is no way to actually sterilize this item.  If you're not fluid bound, you should both have your own if you both want to use this on genitals.

This beautiful tickler is great for exploring the sensual side of role-play.  It's easily used to tickle and tease any erogenous zone you have.  I particularly enjoyed being tickled on breasts, torso, and labia.  You can also use it for Maid scenes as a prop to "dust off the dirty furniture" of whatever you do during those scenes.  Personally, I'm not a good housekeeper, nor do I play one in the bedroom.

While these feathers feel awesome, as I said before, I'm much more into the rough part of kinky play, and I found that the shaft and handle of this tickler makes a decent short cane.  I'm no expert at caning, and don't even own a dedicated cane, but I really think I may have to invest, because the experience with this end of the tickler was very arousing!  The shaft is wonderfully sturdy but has a nice "whippy" quality that delivers a delicious sting to the ass, thighs, and genitals. 

If you're looking for something that can give you a variety of sensations, head over to Babeland and pick up the Starburst Tickler by Sportsheets!

Best Lesbian Erotica 2011--A Review

One of my latest picks from Babeland is Best Lesbian Erotica 2011,  which is edited by Kathleen Warnock.  It is introduced by Lea DeLaria, who also selected the installments.  This is a paperback book that is well-bound.  I had no problems with pages or the spine being anything short of perfect.  If you're looking for discretion in a book, something to carry with you, you might want to consider a book cover.  The sexy naked female bodies on the front, with one of their bare asses up in the air and the words: "BEST LESBIAN EROTICA" on the front cover is nothing, if not obvious. 

Best Lesbian Erotica 2011 features 20 erotic stories in varying degrees of sexual states.  From chance encounters, to pursuance of a sexy playmate, to hardcore humiliation, and everything else in between.  With submissions from well-known voices in the writing world such as Mr. Sinclair Sexsmith and D.L. King, this volume of erotica promises to bring you varied and delicious stories that will appeal to anyone with any sexual tastes.  There are also tales from lesser known and even foreign erotica writers.  I can't imagine how hard it must have been to select which entries made it into this volume!
Here's an excerpt from one of my favorite stories, "The Sweet Tooth Never Fades" by Erica Gimpelevich. 

I'm getting faster and faster.  It starts to feel frenzied, my screwing her.  She's saying " Oh, oh," over and over in different pitches, some high and some deep in her throat.  Her cunt feels like a handle, with my fingers curled to hit her G-spot, like I can use it to pick her up.  Without warning I pull out and wipe the lube off on her.  Her pubes are like steel wool, trimmed enough to scratch at my hand, but long enough to curl.
"Don't stop." She sounds desperate.
Just retyping this for you has my face flushing; and that's just a peek at the decadently erotic stories that await you in Best Lesbian Erotica 2011

There are several power-struggle submissions.  The roughest is "My Precious Whore," by Xan West.  In this story there is humiliation and a definite Master/Slave dynamic that is laid bare.  But another story that isn't nearly as hard is "Little Lou," by french author Gala Fur, which details an encounter at an art show that specializes in BDSM art. 

For those of you who appreciate the more sweet and romantic stories, I really enjoyed "Carried Away in Santa Fe," by Charlotte Dare; and "The Number 91," by Heidi Champa.  In "Carried Away in Santa Fe," two long time friends explore their feelings for each other.  It was a nice, and hot, story that made me want to believe in happy endings.  "The Number 91" is about a woman who sees another one every day on the train and then finally gets her chance.

Another story that I really enjoyed was "Painted Nails and Puppy Dog Tails," by Giselle Renard.  This story is all about one woman trying hard to impress the Rockabilly bombshell that works at a salon in the neighborhood.  She finally gets up the courage to make a play and it turns steamy.  How steamy? Well, maybe I'll let the author tell you:
She took my clit between her lips and sucked it like a cock.  She was incredible.  She made me sweat.  She made me whimper.  I could barely breathe as I looked down at her veiled head attacking my body.  I could feel her arousal as she pressed her ass against the far side of the footbath....
 Right?  Hot! 

If you like tales of female-bodied women, gender-bending, strap-on sex, and so on, pick this book up!  Hurry!  Babeland carries it at a great price with great customer service!  And maybe pick up a new toy to go with it!

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Can I Crash Here Too?

While Babeland offers Sex Toys for a Passionate World, they also offer a variety of porn from the hetero-normative to queer, vanilla to kink, and everything in between.  So, when Babeland offered me a Crash Pad DVD to watch, I didn't know what to expect.  I don't watch a lot of porn, and I am completely new to the concept of "Queer" or "Feminist" porn.  In three short words:  I liked it.

Volume Six of this series is called "Wide Open", is produced by Pink and White Productions, and has five very different and highly erotic scenes.  The DVD also includes bonus materials.  There are interviews with the actors that include behind the scene footage of each scene.  These interviews were very interesting and entertaining.  I enjoyed hearing more about the different actors and their feelings on their work.  But enough about the behind the scenes, you want to know what happens, right?

The premise, or at least what I can gather about it, is that the Crash Pad is an apartment in San Francisco.  In the Crash Pad you are likely to engage in the most mind blowing sex you've ever experienced.  But, if you get to use the Crash Pad, there are some rules.  Though it's not covered in the Wide Open DVD, just a little research gave me the house rules.  Call first; the Pad is first come, first serve.  You must answer the phone or leave it off the hook.  You can only use the Pad seven times.  Once you've used it your seventh time, you must pass the key along to someone else.  Being that this is feminist, queer porn, I would assume that it would be another person of that category; however, one thing I'm learning more and more about the queer community is not to make assumptions.

As for Wide Open, it starts off with a scene with Jiz Lee and Dylan Ryan.  Both of them are fairly well-known in the world of pornography, especially in the Queer Porn genre.  In this scene, this couple has an extra rule.  They cannot kiss.  This proves to be a challenge for them because it is quite obvious that these two have a deeper connection than simply acting together on camera.  This scene is playful, erotic, and you can tell they are having fun together.  The highlight of this scene is the introduction of the Eleven, by NJoy.  This scene is what has sold me on my own desire to get this toy.  They not only use this toy on each other, but use it together in a particularly hot tribbing session.

The next scene is a hard core BDSM humiliation scene featuring Casey Grey and Tina Horn.  Casey is in complete control of the insolent, slutty, messy Tina, and Tina gets punished for her transgressions.  Legs tied up at the knees, an amazing strap-on cock, and spankings make up most of the scene; not to mention some forced orgasm play with a Hitachi Magic Wand.  Tina really should know better.

The third scene features two trans guys (FTM, for those who aren't aware), gorgeous Cyd Loverboy and James Darling.  Who wants their boots licked? That'd be Cyd, who takes control of James, who's tied up with nowhere to go.  If you like punching, cock sucking, and power play, this is the scene for you.  And to be sure, there is some amazing cock sucking going on in this scene.

Ever wonder what it would be like to pick up a sexy bad boi on the side of the road?  Carson and Ray show you what can happen.  Do you want to know what's hotter than a sexy queer with a strap on? Two.  This scene includes cock sucking at its best and then Carson takes Ray for a ride.  As performers who had never acted together before, this scene had a lot of chemistry.

The final scene rivals the first one as my favorite.  Featuring Shawn (aka Syd Blakovich) and Princess Donna.  While it could be considered the most "vanilla" scene in the bunch, there is a genuine tenderness and care that Shawn takes with the Princess.  This scene is primarily about the aftercare.  It starts off with Shawn undressing the Princess and it quickly turns even more erotic.  This scene defies all the other scenes with its lack of toys or apparatuses.  Tongues and fingers do all the work in this scene and it is beautiful and erotic.

Like I said, there are interviews as well.  I took great care to watch all of them and found them fascinating.  I simply didn't want them to end.  It was great to see these wonderful people interact with their costars after the fact.  There was a genuine respect and love in each one of the interviews; even with the only two who'd never been together prior, Carson and Ray.

To say that I enjoyed it more than I thought I would is an understatement.  As someone who is in a monogamous marriage with a man, queer sex is not a world that is opened up to me often.  This was a surprising foray into that and I am very aroused by it.  My very hetero-normative husband did not enjoy it nearly as much, so I usually only watch it for my own solo sessions.  If you enjoy feminist porn, or if you just like seeing real orgasms and great chemistry, definitely check out the Crash Pad series.  Pick it up at Babeland!

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Tied in Black Satin

I had been toying with the idea of being tied for a little while now.  I know My Mr enjoys it, but for many reasons it's never been something I could come to grips with.  I have issues with having my choice, my will, taken from me.  I like to be the one to give the pain, not receive it.  Finally, I decided to give it a try, I had two conditions.  My first condition was that my wrists could be bound, and I could be blindfolded, but I MUST be able to move my arms.  I had to feel like I had a way to defend myself.  No, I wouldn't need to, but I needed to be able to feel like I could.  The second condition was that it would be a sensual experience with no spanking or any kind of implement-play involved.  Basically, anything that I normally found pleasurable would be okay, but I wouldn't be able to see it coming.  For a first time being tied up, I'm glad My Mr understands my fears and was willing to accommodate.  I'm so lucky!

So when I was searching sex toy stores for something to try, I came across Babeland's Satin Bondage Kit.  It looked so soft and smooth, I knew I wanted to try it.  For real satin, this was pretty reasonably priced and even better, was provided to me in exchange for my honest review!  It looked pretty non-threatening and that was key for me.



It arrived in a very discreet box that made no indication that I had received an item from a sex shop.  This is great for me because I live in a duplex and have VERY nosy neighbors.  When I opened the box to reveal my new find, I was met be a delicious black satin drawstring pouch.  It was so soft to touch.  Inside the pouch were my two 5-foot (Right?!) satin sashes and a satin blindfold that ties.  I was really impressed with the blindfold.  I've purchased blindfolds before that say they're satin and soft and end up being nylon and kind of rough.  They get the job done of course, but who wants to buy a product that isn't what it says? Not me!  That's not the case with Babeland's satin blindfold in this kit.  It's very luxurious.  It does have Babeland's logo on one side of it, so if you or your partner don't want to look at it in the middle of your bondage, just go ahead and turn it around, both sides are equally soft and satiny! 

After about 30 minutes of having my wrists bound together, my hands started falling asleep.  I really enjoyed my time, for the most part (details to come later) and will probably go ahead and engage in this more often.  We've also had fun thinking up creative ways we can use the sashes beyond tying me up.  As a doggy-style strap.  A cock-and-balls device. A ribbon for my hair.  A belt.  There are lots of things you can do with these, but for what they're designed to do, they do a great job too!  Pick some up at Babeland's website or in store if you're lucky enough to have a Babeland brick and mortar available to you!

Friday, February 11, 2011

Click This: A Review

One thing that has been a big part of my sexual rediscovery has been masturbation.  Alone time with myself, discovering what feels good, finding hidden treasures along my body has been exciting and freeing.  Discovering new textures of sex toys is a very fun experience as well.  I can't keep that discovery to myself.  So, being a good wife, have decided, from time-to-time, to pick up some things for My Mr.  I can't keep it all to myself, right?  Well, I guess I can but it's not very nice!

The last time I perused the Babeland website looking for something, I decided to get My Mr a Tenga Egg.  I've been eying these for some time and thought, "What a great thing for a quick fix!"  Tenga Eggs are designed to be a one-shot masturbation sleeve that comes in a variety of textures; however, if you are careful to be gentle with it and clean it appropriately, it could last longer but likely not more than 2-3 times.  When you order them in singles on Babeland, you never know what you'll get, as there's not a place for selecting your desired texture.  We received the "Clicker" texture which has cylindrical, hollow knobs that protrude from the inside of the egg.  Made of a squishy TPE (thermoplastic elastic or elastomer), the small egg can stretch over a quite a bit of length and girth.  Before My Mr tried it out, I decided to check it out and get my own textile reactions.  I was able to get it over my entire fist and even stretch out my fingers a little.  Very stretchy.  I was very impressed.


Due to illnesses and TOM running rampant throughout the household, it took us quite some time to actually get around testing this product out.  We eventually tried it out on a night when I was still a little too sick (i.e., hacking up several lungs... one might not have even been mine) but I really wanted to do something for My Mr.  I pulled out the egg, poured some of the provided lube (which feels silicone-based, but I could be wrong) into the egg and onto him, and set to work on his cock.  I was careful to make sure that he could feel the texture all along his manhood from the very tip to the base of his shaft.  He enjoyed the texture immensely while I was working it for him.  I did noticed that the lube did make the outside of the egg more tacky to the touch, but that helped me a little with gripping the egg.

We did switch off so that he could test it himself.  When My Mr masturbates he prefers a much tighter grip than when I'm pleasuring him.  He sets to work with one goal: orgasm, so it is a little difficult for him to take too much time dedicated to gentle work.  It's what I'm there for, right?  So, to get this tighter grip, he had to pull the egg down over him tighter and then all the "clicks" were not felt.  I think with a texture like the Spider or the Silky or the Wavy, this wouldn't have been as much of a problem and he would have continued to feel it all over even when pulled tight.

So, next time you're perusing Babeland for passionate play items, check out these delightful little treasures.  They're an inexpensive way to add a little change-up to your own man's routine.  A little side note too, if you own a wand-style massager like the Hitachi, you can also turn these inside out and use it as a textured attachment to add a little something to those deep vibrations.

Monday, February 7, 2011

Trying New Things

I haven't been around for quite some time due to illness and the children's illnesses.  JOY! 

There are a couple of things that My Mr and I have been working on in the bedroom.  One of them is fisting!  WHOA!  By no means are we there yet, but we're working on it.  We decided to try this after much reading on the subject.  One thing I noticed when reading testimonials is that aside from feeling really full and having the potential for amazing g-spot orgasms, they all claim a level of intimacy unlike anything they've ever known!  This was something we had to try.  We've been working on it slowly over the past month.  We are by no means there yet, but it is intense and very erotic if you take the time to maintain other play while trying this.  The level of intimacy was unlike what I expected.  It's so intense and we feel so close afterward.

The other thing we've been delving into is a bit of the bondage world.  To put it plainly, we've barely got a toe dipped into these deep waters, but it is something that we're exploring.  Mostly as myself as the domme.  I've got some pretty deep-seated issues about rape and control that stands as a barrier to allow me to be a sub, but it works out well because My Mr very much likes me to be in control during our sessions. 

I did allow My Mr to tie me up one time recently.  First time in our entire 9-years together.  I'm going to blog about it on the Eden Cafe, and I will be sure to let all of you know how all this turns out.

I don't plan to take such a long hiatus from blogging here again, unless of course children and I get sick again.

Friday, January 14, 2011

Who Smears Yumminess? Winner Announced

You all have made me feel so awesome with all the comments and tweets!  I was so worried that with my first giveaway, I'd only have one or two contestants!  I don't exactly have an established blog yet!

The great news is this will be to you in time for a sexy Valentine's Day if that's what you want to save it for, or you can use it right away!


I did this the only way I know how and used Random.org to use their random number generator! (Man I need to learn to number my comments!!)

And the winner is:  Venus!  Congratulations Venus!  You are the proud winner of a 1 oz jar of Babeland Toys' Body Chocolate!  Enjoy!



Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Not home today!

You won't actually find a post here from me today.  Today, you can find me at the Eden Cafe.  A place where Eden community members go and share a little bit about themselves.

Or in my case, A LOT about themselves!  Enjoy the post!  And please, comment on the Eden Cafe comments page, not here.  Thanks a lot!

If you're here for the contest, you'll want to go here.  Don't forget!  The contest ends next Thursday night and you must comment to earn your initial entry and you can retweet daily for extra entries, provided you comment!

Monday, January 3, 2011

Smears of Yum!

I started this blog to have a place where I can expound on my adventures in my sexual explorations and also to expand my reviews.  When I was researching companies to write reviews for, I was encouraged to check out Babeland Toys.

Babeland is a great place for anyone looking for toys or education on sex, but they excel at being very female oriented and friendly.  In a realm that is dominated by men and their preferences, it's very nice to find a place that have the ladies as their focus.

When I saw what was available to review at Babeland I was very impressed.  There were a variety of items available for review.  Sex toys, sensual aids, light bondage items, and even books!  Oh the decisions!  Eventually I decided on their Body Chocolate!
Link not working but there is a link above!
 
If being organic, vegan, or fair trade are concerns for you, this is a great product as it meets all three of these criteria.  Personally, it's not an issue for me, but it's so yummy and it's great to know I'm not putting any extra junk in my body.  Want to know what it's made of?  Of course you do!
Sucrose (Organic Sugar)
Theobroma cacao (Organic Cocoa)
Cocos nucifera (Organic Coconut) Oil
Vitis vinifera (Grape) Seed Oil
Vanilla planifolia (Vanilla) Extract
Tocopherol (Vitamin E)
On to the good part!  TESTING!!!!  I received the 1 oz jar in a plain brown box.  That was great because I like for my packages to be discreet as I share a front porch with a neighbor and I have kids.  When it arrived it was godawful cold here and so I had to let it sit for a couple hours before tasting it.  But a sniff-test proved that this was going to be rich and delicious.

Then began the planning.  When would I use this?  How would I use this?  Who will be using this?  Of course, once it melted a little, I realized that I would be the primary partaker.  I don't know if it was the jar I got, the fact that it had solidified in the arctic temperatures here in the Midwest, or if this is the standard taste, but it did have a definitive coconut taste.  Kind of like melted Mounds!  (All you dirty-minded people stop sniggering!)  I chalked it up to the coconut oil and the cold temperature.  I still loved the way that it tasted.  Rich and dark and chocolaty with a coconut taste mixed in!

We ended up using this during a passion filled night.  Probably our best night ever.  We drew on each other.  We wrote on each other.  We kissed and licked.  But by far, my favorite way to use this is to coat My Mr's package for oral sex!

So.  Do you want to try it?  Oh, you know you want to try it!  Well.  Here's your chance!  FOR FREE!  Babeland Toys is going to give one winner their very own 1 oz jar of their signature body chocolate!

How to enter:
  • Leave a comment here on my blog telling me an experience you've had using chocolate in bed OR how you plan on using this.  You cannot just leave a generic comment!  This is an adult site so there's nothing to be ashamed of!  You must leave an initial comment.
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Contest closes at 11:59 on 1/13/11.... Winners to be announced on 1/14/11!  Good Luck!!!