Monday, April 9, 2012

Vagina Worship

Worship the Vagina. Really, go do it. 

Don't get me wrong, I'm not suggesting you build a shrine to the almighty vagina and spend time lighting incense and paying homage to this beautiful organ. Well, I mean, if you want to, sure, go ahead. You won't be the first and you won't be the last. But that's not quite what I mean here.

Every vagina should be worshiped. Seriously. Every. Vagina. Whether you worship your own vagina, worship a vagina, or even better--have someone worship yours, it's worthy of praise. 

One night as Mr and I were engaging in some sexy time in bed, he positioned himself to go down on me. As I opened before him, the sight, smell, and taste of my vagina was arousing him, he groaned. He loves my vagina. He thinks it's the most miraculous, beautiful thing that has ever been created. Now, this is not a new activity for us, but I was really attuned to his reaction to me. It was just as arousing for me to recognize how much he loved my vagina as it was for him to be there to pleasure me. I'm lucky, I have a partner who loves pleasuring me, just for the sake of pleasuring me... more than he wants pleasure himself.  There is rarely an experience where I'm not his focus. Even when I'm making him my focus, I'm still his. This is after ten years! I'm not lucky, I'm blessed!

It was the inspiration to write this post, really. I wanted to share that, in terms of who you choose to be intimate with, it should be someone who just loves your body. Whether it's for that moment, that day, that month, that year, or for a lifetime--shouldn't the lover you take think that your body is just incomprehensibly amazing?!

If you don't have a lover, worship your own vagina! Spend time with it. Explore what you like. Try new things. Try new toys, and lubes, and textures. If you don't have a vagina (or simply don't identify with it), but enjoy sex with women, consider the beauty of the vagina for just a brief moment. There are so many ways to bring pleasure to a woman via her vagina. The clitoris, the hood, the labia, the G-Spot, the A-Spot, the... the... the...

Don't worry about what your vagina looks like. Every vagina is different. Some women have large labia (majora or minora). Some women have a clitoris that is very large, and some women have a clitoris that hides under the hood. Don't look to pornography to tell you what your vagina (or your lover's vagina) should look like, please. This is akin to looking at fashion magazines to tell you what you should look like. It's unrealistic and detrimental to your psyche. I think what can be said about body image can easily be translated to your genitals, if you love them, others will love them too.

I was out with some friends recently and dating, lovers, sex... all of that came up in conversation. One said to me, quite enthusiastically I might add, "I don't want a girlfriend who only wants my vagina. I want a girlfriend who loves vagina. I want a girlfriend who looks at my body and loves all my parts!"

This is exactly true. Whether you're 120 pounds or 320 pounds, you should be with someone who loves your parts. Someone who wants to pleasure your parts. Someone who worships your vagina. I hope that anyone who's spending time in your garden, thinks it's amazing... if not, it's time to find a new gardener, if you get what I'm saying!

**Note to readers: I did not address the topic of those who do not wish to have their genitals touched because that is their preference. I would never suggest to someone that they engage in a sexual behavior that is undesirable to them. Same goes for those who are asexual and do not wish to engage in any sexual activity, regardless of their (or their partner's) gender and/or sex.**