Tuesday, December 28, 2010

From The Gods?

According to Greek mythology, Harmonia was the daughter of Ares, the god of war, and Aphrodite, the goddess of beauty, love, and sexuality!  Granted, Harmonia's marriage to Cadmus was wrought with misfortune and grief, she is the goddess of harmony and concord, and her name alone evokes passion and loveliness. 

The Harmonia by Close2You, evokes much of the same feelings.  I read every review available on Eden Fantasys before deciding to purchase this lovely piece.  It seemed that everyone who had tried it had managed to find their g-spot and have orgasms with this and I needed a piece of that action!  Finally, I received my Holiday Coupon from Eden, converted my points, used all my accrued gift cards, and put it into the cart (along with a few other choice items).

Anxiously, I awaited my delivery.  I honestly don't think I'd ever been that excited for a package from Eden before.  Possibly for my Amethyst, but even still, I'm not sure.  When our package arrived, I opened it immediately.  I saw the beautiful box that Close2You's products come in and just about died.

Let me talk about this packaging for a minute, okay?  Beautiful white box that is nice, quality cardboard.  There are two drawers.  The first contains the Harmonia, which comes nestled in a sturdy foam inset.  The drawer below it is where all the accessories are.  It comes with a beautiful purple velvet bag; a sample of their water-based lube, Glissando (which EF does not carry); a purple silicone cock ring; batteries; and a toy wipe.  Yay!  Gifts with purchase!

We have tried everything except the toy wipe.  Their lube is very smooth, albeit a little runny.  Similar to Astroglide.  The cock ring was nice and stretchy and we were able to get it all the way around My Mr.'s package with very pleasing results.  The batteries ran out quickly; they basically lasted one use for me, but I also did not remove them from my toy after use, so I don't know if they would have lasted if I'd been more careful.                                                

This is such a nice toy.  It is made from a delightfully smooth silicone.  There is a seam in the center but you don't even notice it at all.  One of my favorite things about this toy is that there are two separate buttons.  One for "On/Off" and one to go through the vibrations and patterns.  This means if you're done, you don't have to cycle through, you can just turn it off.  There is no memory, however, so if you pass your pattern, you'll have to go cycle through it to get back to it.

One thing I should mention is that Close2You's idea behind these toys (others include the Opus, Sinfonia, Legamento, and Rhapsodia) is music.  So if you are at all musically adept or have studied any kind of music theory, you will hear music in the patterns.  Now I will go through the vibrations and patterns with you:

  1. Low straight vibrations
  2. Medium straight vibrations
  3. High straight vibrations
  4. Escalating vibrations with a short pause between cycles (do re miiii)
  5. Short pulsing vibrations in a basic 4/4 time.  (do do do do)
  6. Escalates upwards then three short pulses (think, do re mi fa fa fa), then cycles through
  7. Six short pulses, then one long vibration, then cycles through (doo doo doo doo doo doo dooooooooooo)
  8. Shorter steady vibration, then four shorter pulses and a longer steady vibration, then it pauses and starts again. (duuuuum dum dum dum dum duuuuummmmm)
For me, 4 and 7 are really good for warming up, 6 and 8 are the money patterns for me.  The rest are okay but don't really do much for me.  Although, to work on multiples, if I switch to the high setting after my first orgasm, I can achieve a couple more orgasms with some very light thrusting. And while the concept is musical, this toy is not very loud.  Under some covers and a closed door will make this silent to the outside world.

Since learning about my not-very-erectile g-spot, the design of this toy is kind of perfect for my body.  It's long enough to get to my sweet spot while still having enough of the handle to control the toy, and the large bulb really hits my g-spot nicely. And as a bigger woman, I have to say that it's very user-friendly.

Clean up is easy too.  Just a quick wash with your favorite toy cleaner (mine is Climax Bursts), or warm water and a mild soap, and you're good to go.  (If you're planning on sharing this, you can also spray it down with a 10% bleach solution and sterilize it.) It does collect a bit of lint, so you want to at least rinse it off before you use it.  Please, please only use water-based lubricants with this toy.  You do not want to damage such a lovely piece of orgasmic art.

Since music is the theme of this toy, I took the liberty of looking up the word "Harmony" on dictionary.com.  Yes, I already knew what the word meant, but I wanted to get a little technical.  The third definition is the most fitting.  Quite simply, it says "agreeable sounds."  Well, I think My Mr. can confirm that the noises I make when using this is quite agreeable indeed!

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

A Soft Coochy

I cannot begin to tell you how many times over the course of my marriage that My Mr. wished that I would shave my lady bits!  Often, I'd blow off the initial request.  It's time consuming and not an easy endeavor.  After about the 3rd request I usually will give in and take the hour to trim, then shave my girlie area.

Then.  Then the hair grows back.  The itching starts.  The bumps are painful.  And I tell My Mr.:  NEVER. AGAIN.  Until about 1 year goes by and I do it all over again.

So, at the beginning of this journey I was posed with the same question:  Please, will you shave for me?  I decided to go ahead and do it.  I had him trim me with a beard trimmer then took to the bathtub to shave it bare.  I managed to give myself a good shave and made the resolution that I would do this about every 2-3 days to avoid many of the problems that I encountered before. 

After about a month of maintaining I decided that I would try and find a product that is designed just for this purpose.  Since Eden is a shop that I really trust, along with the opinions of their community, I began searching Eden and came across Coochy, by Classic Erotica.  There are plenty of reviews for Coochy on the Eden website, so I got to reading and decided that this was the product I needed to try, along with the Protection Mist that is recommended.

Coochy is about the consistency of hair conditioner (and you can even use it as that if you would like).  I got it in the Green Tea scent and it smells almost exactly like Elizabeth Arden's Green Tea perfume.  It is a little strong, but still has a really soothing scent.

The Protection Mist has a much more pungent "herbal" scent, but once it dries it's gone and you are still left smelling like your Coochy Cream.  The purpose of this spray is that it will leave a smooth layer of protection between your freshly shaven skin and your clothing to avoid irritation.  I've found this even works on freshly shaven legs, which I decided to test since I have such terribly dry skin in the winter.  But, at the price, I do not do this every time I shave.

(For both of these products you will want to check out the ingredients on both items to make sure you are not allergic to anything before purchasing...these ingredients are available on the product pages linked throughout.)

I was really excited to try this out.  It came in the mail, in Eden's, usual discreet packaging, and I had it up in the bathroom within minutes.  I knew this was coming so I didn't shave for a couple of days.  I used a fresh razor, which is always important to avoid problems with nicks and razor burn.  I got a really smooth shave!  I was in love!  After showering and drying off, I used the Protection Mist, which has a 360-degree spray ability (which I think is really nice) and let it dry.  I got dressed and didn't even have the chafing that naturally happens to me when I put on panties after I shave.  (It's not usually bad, but I definitely can feel the material rubbing against the sensitive, exposed skin.)

After about 2 weeks of using this product I was having some difficulties with shaving.  More irritation than usual and not getting as close as I would like.  I did find that changing to the Venus disposable razors for sensitive skin did help and I also now do a preliminary shave with my body wash, then switch to the Coochy to get the closer shave.  This helped a lot and I got the closest, smoothest shave I've ever managed.

All in all, I would recommend this product to someone who wants to shave delicate skin, and I have already recommended it to friends.  The cream offers a nice layer of protection between your skin and the blade.  The mist offers protection from your clothing on freshly shaven skin.  Two solid wins for me!

Friday, December 17, 2010

A G-Spot Discovered!!!

"Mmmm.  Thank you God for the G-spot!"  I've been saying that for a few weeks now!

A little information about the G-spot.  It is erectile tissue that is located up above your pubic bone.  When you become aroused, the G-spot enlarges so that it is able to be stimulated during sex.  It feels like a nubbly sponge.  It's very textured and squishy.  How much tissue you have, how erect it becomes, how sensitive it is... well all that is individual to each woman.  So if you haven't found yours yet, take heart!  You are not alone and you are not dysfunctional.

This photo taken from http://www.disabled-world.com
(Well, maybe you are but that probably has nothing to do with your G-spot!  Then again, aren't we all a little dysfunctional??)

I am one of those women who never had an orgasm with intercourse.  My Mr. has always been very generous to make sure he gave me a clitoral orgasm, but I know that secretly (and sometimes not-so-secretly) he wondered if he was doing a good job since I couldn't orgasm.  Frankly, I think movies and TV are to blame for this misconception that sex feels amazing for women and orgasm every time they have sex.  Of course, after 9 years of having sex, he did finally realize that it's not him, it's really me.

I did, however, recently become obsessed with the idea of female ejaculation, which is sometimes called "squirting."  It's not that I don't like the term "squirt" but it's often a misconception to female ejaculation.  Not every woman who ejaculates will shoot her ejaculate across the room!  For some women it's slow and simply runs out of the paraurethral ducts that surround her urethra.  Anyway, this obsession has led me to scour the internet and have more exploratory play both solo and with my husband.

In my explorations with my husband of my G-spot I discovered that I needed a lot of pressure on my G-spot to get any sort of stimulation from it.  I also learned that the thrusting motion was not effective on my G-spot in order to achieve orgasm.  A massaging technique was necessary.  At first it was uncomfortable because I felt like I had to pee a lot even though I had just emptied my bladder.  Not to mention, my G-spot lies deep within my vaginal canal and does not erect very much so My Mr.'s fist up against my vulva with so much pressure just did not feel very good.

These results led to the acquisition of The Amethyst.

The Amethyst :)
I'm going to go on a little side bar and write a little love note to glass.  Mmmm, if you have not tried glass, you should give it a shot!  I'm not kidding, just thinking about a glass piece will make me aroused because it holds unspeakable pleasures.  If you make it cold you can experience the nice shocking sensation of deep temperature differences inside you.  (For those of you who have fantasies involving sparkly vampires, well... now you'll know how Bella felt on her honeymoon!) If you heat it up (aside for any Jacob fantasies...) it feels like having a hot stone massage inside your girlie bits, which is my favorite way to use glass.

Okay, back to The Amethyst.  *sheepishly lazy, satisfied grin*  The full details of my review, along with the video, are available if you follow the link.  However, I will say that the deep curve of this piece is excellent for someone discovering her G-spot.  It hooks right up behind your pubic bone and you're left with a nice handle that makes it easy to use.  I found that rocking The Amethyst along with light vibrations or gentle pressure on my clitoris yielded the best results for me!  This technique has yielded many G-spot orgasms and I finally was able to ejaculate!  It was the most exciting thing that has ever happened to me, sexually, other than My Mr.   (Without his desire to pleasure me, this discovery would never have been made, so truly he is the most exciting thing that has ever happened to me sexually.)   Truly, it was the most freeing orgasm, the first time I had it, because I was able to finally let go of the frustrations and feelings of inadequacy that I had before I was able to do this.

Now, if you are one of those women, who like me, felt that you would never experience the wonder of a G-spot orgasm, my advice would be to relax, be patient, and have fun in the journey!

Happy Hunting!

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

The Best You'll Ever Have, a book review

Since taking this journey into my sexuality, I've been somewhat obsessed with finding literature, forums, anything really that will help me accomplish some of my goals.  Being a BBW naturally eliminates 975 out of 1,000 positions in a Kama Stura book, and probably most of the positions in the "Position of the Day" book, so usually those types of books are not what I look for.

I was at my public library and decided I'd find out what they have about sex when I happened upon this book:  The Best You'll Ever Have, by Shannon Mullen, with Valerie Frankel.  With a tag line that read:  "What every woman should know about getting and giving Knock-Your-Socks-Off Sex," how could I not pick up this book?

This is a very quick read.  I had made it through two sections while sitting in the library waiting for My Mister to finish making his book/CD selection!  By then, I was sure I was taking it home.

In the book, Mullen and Frankel talk about everything from masturbation to anal sex (yes, anal sex for both men and women).  I found it to be very informative and entertaining.  Mullen has a style of writing that is entertaining and still remains professional without being intimidating. 

My Mister even read parts of it and pointed out the sections he most wanted me to read.  Not to mention, he even read some parts of it and coached me into my first multiple orgasm experience!  I'll quote you an excerpt of what he read to coach me:
While multiple orgasms are a lot of fun to aim for, don't ruin the orgasms you already have by pressuring yourself to have more.  The key to multiple orgasms is to surf a wave of pleasure.  So catch a wave and keep on riding instead of waiting for it to break
Needless to say, there is more!  There are about 8 tips for helping yourself to achieve multiple orgasms.  This is not the only subject that Mullen has tips for, either.

What I think makes Mullen so easy to read is that she has done this in person with women for some time.  She founded Safina, which I am unable to determine if it exists anymore.  Safina, however, was a great:  in a living room, you and a bunch of your friends (and possibly your friends' friends) discussing things like orgasms and anal sex and vibrators.  What I think was so great is that there was someone there who was a "professional" in a sense.  Someone to talk to about tips and reassurance in an open and judgment-free environment.

I highly recommend picking up this book.  It is a great resource for any woman who is just beginning to learn how to take advantage of every sexual sensation their body has to offer!

Just a note:  While I'm unsure if Safina still exists or not, you can always check out Babeland who offers education on their website, via consultants, and in their stores.  Babeland is a company created by two women who were looking for a sex-positive, woman-friendly environment to learn about sex and sex toys.  And they DO still exist!